Relationship Expert Reveals 8 Things Nigerian Women Truly Want for Valentine's Day
As Valentine's Day approaches on February 14, a relationship expert has provided valuable tips for men and women in Nigeria, focusing on meaningful gestures rather than costly presents. Mr. Ogwuche Godwin, a marriage counselor and director of GoRu Academy, shared his insights in an exclusive chat, highlighting common mistakes men make and listing the gifts women secretly desire.
Understanding Women's True Expectations
Mr. Godwin explained that from his experience working with many Nigerian women, both married and single, their expectations for Valentine's Day go beyond material gifts. He stated, "What Nigerian women truly want on Valentine’s Day is to feel seen, valued, remembered, and emotionally prioritized." He emphasized that it is not about expensive items, competition, or social media pressure, but about intentional effort and emotional expression.
He noted that many women carry significant burdens, including work stress, family responsibilities, and emotional labor in relationships. Therefore, thoughtful actions like a planned outing or a heartfelt message can have a profound impact, making women feel important and appreciated.
Common Valentine's Day Mistakes Men Make
The relationship expert pointed out several errors men often commit during this period. He said, "One of the biggest mistakes men make on Valentine’s Day is waiting until the last minute." This rush can lead to poorly chosen gifts that lack thoughtfulness. Additionally, men sometimes buy gifts based on their own preferences rather than considering their partner's tastes, such as selecting a perfume they like instead of one suited to her.
Mr. Godwin also warned against equating money with love, stating that expensive gifts without emotional connection can fail to make women feel valued. He advised men to focus on sincerity and planning ahead to avoid these pitfalls.
Top 8 Gifts Nigerian Women Secretly Desire
Mr. Godwin listed the following items that many Nigerian women secretly wish for on Valentine's Day, though he stressed that underlying these desires is a need for attention and genuine love:
- A Proper Date at an Eatery or Recreational Centre: Taking her out to a restaurant, lounge, cinema, or recreational spot makes her feel special and intentionally celebrated.
- Shopping at the Mall: Offering to go shopping together, where she can pick what she likes, demonstrates value and prioritization.
- Vacation (Within or Outside the Country): A short trip, whether local or international, creates lasting memories and shows thoughtfulness.
- Gift of a Car: This represents comfort, security, and status, making it a highly desired major gift.
- Expensive Perfumes, Clothing, Bags, and Shoes: Quality luxury items boost confidence and appreciation, as they may not be easily self-purchased.
- Enrolling Her in a Course She Has Always Wanted: Paying for a professional course or skill development shows care for her personal growth beyond romance.
- Empowering Her to Start a Business: Helping launch her dream business fosters partnership, respect, and long-term stability.
- A New Phone (Especially a Big or Latest Model): Practical and exciting, such as a new iPhone or high-end device, is often welcomed.
Mr. Godwin concluded by reminding everyone that while these gifts are appealing, consistent love, emotional security, and intentionality are what sustain relationships. He urged people to give according to their capacity and avoid turning Valentine's Day into a competitive or pressured event.
Additional Valentine's Day Insights
In related news, a video recently went viral on social media showing a lady's joyful reaction after receiving Valentine's packages from her boyfriend, despite a pastor's warning against celebrating the day. Additionally, a Nigerian girl shared a video of her 14-year-old brother preparing gifts for his girlfriend, seeking advice on wrapping and selection, highlighting the widespread interest in Valentine's Day celebrations across age groups in Nigeria.
