A Nigerian lawyer has shared a heart-wrenching story on social media about reconnecting with her biological father, who abandoned her and her mother three decades ago, only to cut ties again after his shocking request.
The Painful History of Abandonment
The lady, who shared her experience via a TikTok post from the account @tbque01, recounted that her father left the family home 30 years ago. The reason for his departure was her mother's refusal to terminate the pregnancy that resulted in her birth. After this disagreement, he ghosted them completely, leaving the mother to raise their child alone.
For three decades, there was no contact or support from the man. The lady grew up, pursued her education, and eventually became a successful lawyer, all without her father's presence or assistance.
A Hospital Visit and a Costly Reunion
Years later, the lady learned that her long-absent father was sick and hospitalized. Demonstrating remarkable compassion despite their history, she decided to visit him. During her visit, she took it upon herself to sort out his outstanding hospital bills and even gave him some extra money for his personal needs.
This act of kindness, however, was met with an unexpected and entitled demand that would ultimately sever their fragile reconnection.
The Final Straw: A Demand for a Car
After her generous assistance, the father later called his daughter with a specific request. He asked her to buy him a car, justifying his demand by saying, "all my friends are car owners except for me". He added pressure by stating, "my daughter is a lawyer, don’t let them mock me."
This sense of entitlement, coming from a man who had provided no emotional or financial support for her entire life, was the final breaking point for the lady. She made the decisive choice to block his phone number, cutting off communication permanently.
In her viral TikTok post, she summarized the ordeal: "Ghosting my dad who thinks the world revolves around him... heard he was sick and I went to see him in the hospital sorted his hospital bills and gave him little change, guess who is calling to ask me for a car... I used my block button asap."
Public Reactions to the Story
The story, compiled by Legit.ng, sparked a flood of reactions from Nigerians online, with many sharing similar experiences and opinions.
User @creamycakesnevents commented on the entitlement of some absentee fathers, drawing a parallel to her own life. @Cocktails_In_Akure/Ekiti expressed a desire to one day publicly call out her own father for similar behavior.
Others questioned the lady's initial decision to seek him out. @user80815601143 asked, "Because why did you go to visit him in the first place????" while @Queen?? stated, "The first mistake was to even visit him in the hospital talk less of sorting out bills."
However, not all comments were critical of the father. @Costa0019 offered a different perspective, suggesting, "pls can you just find time to hear his own side of the story then you can judge him accordingly."
The story, published on December 19, 2025, by award-winning journalist Victor Duru, highlights a recurring theme of parental abandonment and the complex emotions involved when children of absent parents achieve success.
In a related report, Legit.ng covered a story of a bride who confronted her deadbeat father when he showed up at her wedding after 29 years of absence and tried to dictate the cultural proceedings.
