A Nigerian single mother has ignited a fiery conversation online after declaring that she would never consider marrying a man who is also a single parent. The lady, who uses the TikTok handle @mhaycakes, shared her uncompromising stance in a video that has since gone viral, drawing both agreement and criticism from netizens.
The Viral TikTok Declaration
In her now-controversial post, the single mum, who identifies as a feminist and is a mother to one daughter, made her position unequivocally clear. Text overlaid on her video read: "Even as a single mom, I can never marry a single father." She emphatically added, "God no fit gree! Even if na single father of 1! I no do."
Her declaration, posted on December 18, 2025, was not just a passing comment but a firm boundary she has set for her future. The user explained that the only scenario where she might reconsider is if the potential partner's child's mother is deceased. She expressed bewilderment at single women who choose to marry single fathers while the children's mother is still alive, writing in pidgin: "una de try."
Reasons Behind the Stance
When probed further in the comments section of her post, @mhaycakes elaborated on two primary reasons for her decision. Firstly, she stated plainly, "Who wan be stepmother? Abeg! not me," highlighting her aversion to taking on a step-parental role.
Secondly, she expressed a deep-seated trust issue, claiming that single fathers often maintain problematic ties with their children's mothers. She wrote, "They usually go back to their bms [baby mamas]. Not all tho," suggesting a fear that past relationships could interfere with a new marriage.
Mixed Reactions Flood Social Media
The single mum's candid views triggered a wave of reactions on TikTok and beyond, with many users weighing in on the debate.
Some users strongly agreed with her perspective. One commenter, Natty's Emporium ♍, supported her, saying, "My sister na true u talk ooo." Another user, Dammie Unbroken ?, echoed a similar sentiment of having standards, commenting, "I think say na only me??...my own single mother get choice and standard!!!!"
Others, however, presented a different viewpoint. A user named Georgina countered, stating, "I actually can date a responsible comfortable single father of 1." This highlights that for some, the responsibility and stability of the man are more important than his parental status. Interestingly, one man saw an opportunity in her exception, with user Godfather remarking, "My baby mama dead, so am free."
The discussion taps into broader conversations about blending families, trust, and the unique challenges and preferences single parents face when re-entering the dating scene in Nigeria.
