A Nigerian woman living in the United States has shared a heartfelt public apology to her former husband, citing a newfound understanding of the pressures he faced over utility costs during their marriage.
An Unexpected Apology During a Friendly Chat
In a candid Facebook post made on Wednesday, January 7, Seun Obajolu revealed that she recently spoke with her ex-husband. Their conversation, which began as a light-hearted discussion about their children, took a serious turn when she expressed her need to apologise.
"I APOLOGIZED TO MY EX. Recently I was speaking with my ex husband.. it was a friendly banter about the girls … And I said to him, I owe you an apology," she wrote. She noted that the line went quiet, sensing his anticipation to hear what she had to say.
The Realisation That Came With Responsibility
Seun explained that her apology centred on memories of her ex-husband's visible stress over high electricity bills. At the time, she admitted she did not grasp his concern, often dismissing it with an attitude of "just pay it and stop stressing me."
Her perspective changed completely now that she is solely responsible for managing the household expenses. "Now that I have to pay those extremely high energy bills every month, and I catch myself fussing at the girls… educating them about why they’d rather give my money to all these rich folks than help mom save???" she lamented.
This monthly struggle brought a moment of clarity. She finally understood the financial and emotional burden her ex-husband carried. "It dawned on me then…what you might have been going through at the time…. omo, its not easy to be working and be dashing these rich folks my hard earned money abeg," she added.
A Universal Lesson in Empathy
Seun's ex-husband responded to her apology with laughter, a reaction she humorously noted. More importantly, the experience reinforced a powerful life lesson for her.
She concluded her post with a reflection that resonates widely: "Anyways, I was once again reminded that till you walk in someone else’s shoes, you might never really understand where and how much it hurts o." She ended by asking for prayers as she faced opening another month's bill.
This story, originally shared by Linda Ikeji, highlights how personal experience is often the best teacher for fostering empathy and understanding in relationships, even those that have ended.
