A Nigerian woman has openly confessed to having an extramarital affair, attributing her actions directly to her husband's own infidelity and profound emotional neglect. The revelation, which has sparked widespread discussion online, was made in a public forum over the weekend.
The Catalyst: A Public Complaint to a Counsellor
The incident unfolded on Saturday, January 10, 2025. It began when another woman voiced her marital struggles to popular marriage counsellor, Shamseddin Giwa, lamenting that her husband showed her no affection. This public complaint prompted Martha (whose surname was blurred by LIB) to share her own, more drastic story.
In her response, Martha detailed a marriage filled with disrespect and loneliness. She accused her husband of not only being unfaithful but also of deliberately withholding sex and attention from her. According to her account, he showed her no respect, creating an unbearable home environment.
"I Find Person Outside Servicing Me": Martha's Justification
Martha explained that she had exhausted all conventional avenues to save her marriage. She reported her husband's behaviour to both his parents and her own, hoping for intervention. However, she claimed these efforts yielded no positive change. Furthermore, when she suggested divorce, her husband refused to grant it.
Faced with this impasse, Martha made a conscious decision. "I tried, he cannot change, my dear... divorce me he no gree. I find person outside servicing me," she wrote. She admitted she initially thought her affair would not hurt her husband, but noted a paradoxical shift in his behaviour afterwards. "Since that time, my husband's sense don come back," she stated, implying he suddenly became more attentive.
However, by then, Martha had emotionally moved on. She expressed deep satisfaction with her new relationship, stating they enjoy themselves whenever she needs him. She ended this point with a resigned shrug: "after all all sin na sin. Life continues."
A Fiery Defence of Married Women's Humanity
Martha didn't stop at sharing her story; she directly challenged the marriage counsellor, Mr. Giwa. In a passionate defence of women in similar situations, she argued that married women are human beings with emotional and physical needs.
"Leave married women alone abeg," she pleaded. "The thing is so painful, if my husband did not stop follow follow and give me attention, I swear I will continue with my own man Wei my mind like make anything happen haba, married woman no be human being." This raw outburst underscored her central argument: her actions were a direct response to prolonged pain and neglect.
The story, originally reported by Linda Ikeji's blog on January 11, 2026, continues to resonate as a stark case study in marital breakdown, highlighting complex issues of reciprocity, neglect, and the choices individuals make when feeling trapped in unhappy unions.
