A Nigerian woman residing in a foreign country has sparked a significant online conversation by advising that it is better to get married before relocating abroad. She cited the pervasive loneliness experienced by many immigrants as her primary reason.
The Viral TikTok Revelation
The woman, who uses the TikTok handle @melodyandimuero, shared her perspective in a video that quickly went viral. She stated that the experience of moving abroad fundamentally changed her and her partner, involving a mix of personal growth, challenges, and gratitude. However, she emphasized a critical point: the profound loneliness that can accompany life in a foreign land.
According to her, if not for the presence of her husband, she would have struggled immensely with isolation. She described the social environment where she lives, noting that many people tend to mind their own business and avoid lengthy, familiar conversations with neighbours, a stark contrast to the communal lifestyle often found in Nigeria.
Netizens React: A Divided Opinion
The video triggered a flood of reactions in the comment section, revealing a wide spectrum of experiences and personalities.
Many users agreed with her sentiment, expressing their own fears or experiences with loneliness. User @Boldking commented, "My only fear is this loneliness if not I would have traveled too." Others, like @NOYA27, pointed out that loneliness is not exclusive to being abroad, stating, "Loneliness dey everywhere. I dey lonely sef as I dey naija."
However, the advice was not universally accepted. Some users saw the solitary life as a benefit. @HOLY QUEEN wrote, "That will be the best place for me. I no like talkative." Meanwhile, @Chibunna offered a counter-perspective, particularly for young men, advising, "As a young man, no try marry before you travel, lots of opportunities out there if you are single."
Beyond the Advice: A Common Immigrant Narrative
The discussion underscores a common narrative in the 'Japa' movement—the emotional and social cost of starting anew in a different culture. The woman's story highlights that while pursuing opportunities abroad, the need for emotional support and companionship remains paramount for many individuals.
This personal account adds a relatable, human dimension to the broader discourse on migration, moving beyond just career and financial prospects to address mental well-being and social integration challenges faced by Nigerians in the diaspora.
