Ada Ujaligwa, a married mother of five and a medical doctor, has ignited a firestorm of criticism on social media following a controversial Facebook post about the death of parents and its impact on young children. In her now-deleted post, she wrote: 'Let no children lose any parent before they reach successful adulthood but if one parent must kpai (die) when the child is still small, let it be the father and not the mother. Mothers ensure children are well taken care of way more than fathers.'
Public Backlash
The post drew immediate anger from many users, who pointed out that Ujaligwa has grown sons who are also medical doctors. Commenters questioned whether she would be comfortable with her own sons dying, given her statement. The intensity of the backlash led her to delete the original post.
Follow-Up Clarification
In a subsequent post, Ujaligwa attempted to clarify her remarks. She wrote: 'Children who lose their fathers early but their mothers stayed alive to raise them often fare far better in life than children who lose their mothers early but their father stayed alive to raise them. Most fathers are unable to raise children alone.' She added, 'God pls keep every parent alive and well for their children Amen. A father is super important and a mother is super important. But can you tell me why, children who lost their mothers early suffer in this life way more than children who lost their fathers early?'
Despite her attempts to explain, the controversy continued, with many accusing her of promoting harmful gender stereotypes and devaluing fathers. The incident has sparked broader discussions about parental roles and the impact of loss on children.
