Is Love Blind?
By Guardian Nigeria | Date: 2 May 2026 5:04am WAT
My personal plan for my life was to marry early. During my last year in secondary school, I met a girl and decided to grow with her and marry her in the nearest future. Our relationship was not sexual at all. The love was so intense that I would lose weight when I did not see her; I could hardly eat. One day, something happened and I thought she was dead. I prepared my mind to kill myself when news came that she was alive. That was the only time in my life that the thought of suicide crossed my mind. I thank God I did not kill myself because of love that was blind.
To make a long story short, I wrote the West African School Certificate Examination (WASCE) and it turned out to be a fiasco. Who else did I need to comfort me than the girl I was blindly in love with? Instead, she sacked me. She sacked me! I went back to my parents' house. I put on Jimmy Cliff's music titled 'That's the way life goes' and another titled 'Not now, no baby not now.' I was almost sinking into depression until I asked myself, 'What is wrong with you?' Then I decided to pick up the broken pieces of my life. I rewrote WASCE and had one of the best results in the school. From there, I went for my Higher School Certificate (HSC) and finally, my university education.
I did not blame the girl for sacking me. We were about the same age, and I think she did not want to marry someone who could not pass an ordinary West African Certificate Examination. One or two of my readers would not have wanted their daughter to marry someone who could not cross the school certificate hurdle. But I made up my mind never to fall blindly in love again. It was much later I began to see that I, Charles, was blind and that love is not blind. When I looked back, I saw that the signals that I was making a fool of myself were all there, but I was too foolish and blind to see the signs.
In Judges 16:4, it is written 'and it came to pass afterwards that he (Samson) loved a woman…' In Judges 14:1-20, Samson had earlier fallen blindly in love with a girl. He kept ignoring all the signals, including attempts on his life, because he was blindly in love. There is nowhere in the Bible where the adjective 'Love is blind' is used to define love. 'God is love' and His love for you is not blind. I pray that anytime any member of your family is blinded by love and begins to do stupid things, God will send someone to rescue him or her so that they will not become permanently physically blind and harmed like Samson. Love you!
Bishop Charles Ighele is the General Superintendent of Holy Spirit Mission, Lagos.
