Jennette McCurdy has never been one to share every detail of her romantic life, but she has revealed enough over the years to piece together a timeline. The former iCarly star, now a celebrated author and podcaster, has been linked to actors, an NBA star, and even a country singer. Some relationships were confirmed, others were mere rumours, and one remains a well-kept secret.
The long-term relationship McCurdy keeps private
In August 2022, McCurdy disclosed on her podcast Empty Inside that she had been in a "healthy and loving relationship" for six years. That statement meant the relationship began around 2016. By 2024, it had surpassed seven years. Despite her openness about that milestone, she has not named her partner or shared photos of him. Some headlines have referred to him as her husband, but McCurdy has never married.
Rumoured romance with Graham Patrick Martin (2004)
McCurdy's dating history stretches back to her early teens. In September 2004, she was rumoured to be dating actor Graham Patrick Martin, who later played Eldridge on Two and a Half Men. Both were teenagers at the time, and the relationship was never confirmed. Speculation suggested it lasted until 2008, though Martin appeared on iCarly in 2009, coinciding with the rumoured break-up period.
First confirmed relationship with Paul Butcher (2005–2006)
McCurdy's first confirmed relationship was with actor Paul Butcher, known for Zoey 101. They met at school in 2005 and began dating in June of that year. The pair split in March 2006. McCurdy also dated a man named Matthew Whitehead at some point, though the timing is less documented.
Paul Glaser: A relationship revealed in her memoir
In her bestselling memoir I'm Glad My Mom Died, McCurdy revealed a relationship with Paul Glaser, the script manager on iCarly. She was 19 at the time, while he was 13 years her senior. The relationship ended before her mother Debra passed away from cancer. McCurdy did not offer many details, but the reveal was one of the most talked-about excerpts from the book.
The Max Ehrich rumour (2010–2011)
Between September 2010 and September 2011, McCurdy was often photographed with actor, singer, and dancer Max Ehrich. They attended events together, leading many to believe they were dating. However, McCurdy later clarified that they were never romantically involved. Ehrich echoed that in 2016, tweeting that they were just friends. Ehrich is known for roles in Southern Gospel and American Princess.
A week with NBA star Andre Drummond (2013)
One of McCurdy's most surprising relationships was with professional basketball player Andre Drummond. The two met online and decided to go on a date. Their romance was brief, lasting about a week. McCurdy described it as "sweet, gutsy and flattering." She also shared an awkward detail from their first kiss during a laser-tag outing, admitting that "the shapes didn't feel right." Drummond went on to play for the Chicago Bulls and other NBA teams.
Jesse Carere: Her most public relationship (2015–2016)
McCurdy's relationship with Canadian actor Jesse Carere was her most public. The two met on the set of Netflix's sci-fi series Between and began dating in 2015. McCurdy confirmed the relationship during interviews, and they were frequently seen together at events. After nearly a year, the relationship quietly ended. By 2016, McCurdy had removed photos with Carere from social media, leading fans to piece together the split.
False alarms: Steven Grayhm and Joe Nichols
Two more romance rumours involved her Between co-star Steven Grayhm and country singer Joe Nichols. Grayhm joined the series in 2016, but the dating speculation was entirely false; they were described as just co-stars and friends. Similarly, Nichols and McCurdy shared the stage at the American Nation Awards on 6 December 2010 in Las Vegas, which sparked a rumour. The two were never a couple; they were only friends.
Inside McCurdy's private life and trivia
McCurdy's personal life goes beyond her romantic history. Born on 26 June 1992 in Long Beach, California, she is 34 years old as of 2026. She stands 5 ft 2 in (157 cm) tall and wears a US dress size 8 (EU 38) and a 32C bra. She keeps three dogs named Snoopy, Chewie, and Musashi, along with two pet turtles, Tootsen and Zeus. She has also been open about her past struggle with anorexia nervosa. In 2019, she fronted Birds Eye's Veg campaign encouraging children to eat vegetables.
McCurdy began acting at a young age and went on to star in iCarly, The First Lady, and Between. She has since stepped back from acting and now works as a writer, director, and podcaster. Her memoir, released in 2022, became a bestseller, and she continues to attract attention for her honest and often humorous takes on her own life.
