A Nigerian lady identified as benita_ohabuike on TikTok has sparked a wave of reactions after sharing a video in which she criticised a man she met in church for asking for her phone number without first offering to pay her church offering.
What happened in church
In the now-viral video, the lady recounted that she attended a church service where a man seated beside her appeared interested in getting to know her. According to her, although they did not speak during the service, she noticed him looking at her in a way that made her think he wanted to start a conversation. She, however, said she was disappointed when it was time for the offering. According to the lady, the man did not offer to pay her offering, leaving her to contribute it herself before later asking for her phone number after the service.
Expressing her frustration, she said: "I was in the church today and there was this guy sitting beside me. He was just looking at me and giving me this vibe that he wanted to talk to me. I was cool. I didn't even tell this guy anything." She continued: "It was time for offering. This guy didn't even make attempts to pay for my offering. Yet, I proceeded and paid for my offering." She added that she was surprised when the man approached her after the church service. "After the church, this guy had the mind to ask for my number. Like, he asked for my number. Why didn't you pay for my offering first before asking for my number?"
Reactions online
The video quickly gained traction across social media platforms, where many users disagreed with her expectation that the man should have paid her offering before requesting her contact. Reacting to the video, one user wrote: "Church offering is between you and God, not a prerequisite for a guy to ask for your number. Some women dey try. This entitlement is getting out of hand." Another commented: "The type of entitlement and poverty-ridden mentality some of these girls go around with these days is very annoying. No wonder many of them are finding it difficult to attract and keep good men who will marry them. It's even the audacity for me! Some of you are so shameless!" A third user said: "I hereby call on Nigerian men both home and abroad to stop getting married to these women."
Broader debate on dating expectations
While many commenters criticised the woman's expectations, others argued that people are entitled to their personal dating preferences and that no one is obligated to meet them. The discussion has since evolved into a broader conversation about dating expectations, financial gestures and entitlement in modern relationships.
