A Nigerian man has criticized the double standards of Nigerian men who insist on being served by Nigerian women but willingly take on domestic roles when in relationships with white women abroad.
Facebook Post Sparks Debate
Jimoh Noah Onaolapo took to Facebook to express his frustration, calling out the so-called 'strong patriarchal alpha men' who, upon traveling abroad, date women old enough to be their mothers and perform full domestic duties to secure legal status.
'So no be these same “strong patriarchal alpha men” you people hype online that travel abroad to date women old enough to be their mothers, wash pants, clean house, cook, babysit and do full domestic duties just to secure papers?' he wrote.
Submission and Domestic Roles
He highlighted the irony that these men, who once demanded submission from Nigerian women, suddenly find it easy to share chores and adopt teamwork when with white women. 'If dem marry their mama age mate wey be oyinbo, Suddenly submission no go hard again. Suddenly house chores no go reduce masculinity again. Suddenly “woman place na kitchen” turns into teamwork for Odogwu Igbo man and Wasiu Yoruba man,' he added.
Onaolapo noted that these same men could not peacefully perform domestic duties for young, beautiful black women back home without demanding respect and asserting their role as 'man of the house.'
Call to Stop Packaging Patriarchy as Strength
He urged men to stop packaging patriarchy as strength, emphasizing that many are only traditional when the woman is African and socially conditioned to tolerate nonsense. 'Please abeg make una stop packaging patriarchy as strength. Many of these men are only traditional when the woman is African and socially conditioned to tolerate nonsense,' he concluded.
