A married man has issued a stark warning to couples: brutal honesty is a recipe for disaster in marriage. Chimezie Okpoko shared his thoughts in reaction to a controversial interview where a husband stated his wife was not his type when they met and still is not his type.
Massaging Your Partner's Ego Is Part of the Marriage Package
Okpoko emphasized that downplaying a partner's ego in the name of frankness is harmful. He wrote: 'Massaging your partner's ego in private and public is part of the package you sign up for when you decide to get married.' He illustrated his point with examples, such as praising your wife's cooking even if you know better restaurants, and complimenting her appearance even if you find others more attractive.
Why You Should Never Publicly Insult Your Spouse
According to Okpoko, publicly insinuating that your spouse is not your type gives trolls ammunition and imprints negative thoughts in their head. He advised: 'Even if they don't process it immediately, chances are that it is imprinted in their head and will come out at a later date.' He stressed that a spouse's job is to make their partner feel good, not to be brutally honest.
Handling Sensitive Issues with Love and Care
Okpoko also addressed how to handle sensitive topics like weight. He suggested saying 'You're perfect, baby' even if the partner asks about being fat, because only she can advise herself on that matter. He concluded: 'Brutal honesty is a recipe for disaster in a marriage. Marriage isn't a shrine or a law court.'
