A young Nigerian man has taken to social media to express his disappointment after a friend based in the United Kingdom sent him a sum of N4,000 as a token of appreciation for a favor. The man, identified as @DeemhanJupiter on Twitter, recounted the incident in a now-viral post, stating that he did not ask for any money from his friend. The friend had promised to show gratitude by buying him breakfast, but the amount sent left the man feeling insulted.
Background of the Incident
According to @DeemhanJupiter, the UK-based friend requested his assistance with an important task. After completing the task, the friend expressed a desire to appreciate him by offering to buy him breakfast. However, when the money was transferred to his bank account, the amount turned out to be N4,000. The man noted that he had already given someone N5,000 earlier that same morning, making the gesture seem even more insignificant.
In his words: "My friend in the UK sent me 4k. I didn't even ask. He needed me to do something for him, I did it. He say he wan appreciate me and buy me breakfast. He sent me 4k? I wan craze. Funniest part is I have given someone 5k that same morning."
Mixed Reactions from Social Media Users
The post sparked a wave of reactions from Nigerians on social media, with many offering diverse opinions on the matter. Some users criticized the man for being ungrateful, while others argued that the friend should not have made a promise he could not fulfill.
User @seunspace commented: "Why make a promise you can't fulfill? This has nothing to do with entitlement but the wannabe Americana that wants to show doings. I will send you something is different from I will send you something big. We have Nigerians hustling there and still sending big things back home."
Another user, @ikenna6868, noted: "The person messed up by saying big money. But in all, show appreciation, use what you're given to make full of yourself. Half bread is better than none. Even if na sharwama, buy, chop, Dey alright."
Defending the UK-Based Friend
Some commenters defended the UK-based friend, highlighting the financial struggles many Nigerians face abroad. User @ade_397 wrote: "Na ingrate full this 9ja. Does she knows what the person is facing over there? Once they hear us or abroad. They are plucking money from there ni for her mind. Ozur."
Similarly, @iam_YoungShozy said: "Any money that doesn't belong to you or earn is never too small. And yes, you should be dragged for it. Thoughtful of the person for the good gesture. How many from the people you ask for money turn up for you? And how many have you blessed without being asked."
@Daguitarprince2 added: "Some of them are living on loan, maybe he took extra shift for him to be able to send 15k to you and 20 other people in his DM..you don't know what abroad people are going through o. Their bills no be small. Madam appreciate the little he gave you."
Broader Context of Diaspora Remittances
The incident has reignited discussions about expectations and realities of remittances from Nigerians living abroad. Many users emphasized that life overseas is not as easy as perceived, with high taxes and cost of living. @InnocentWonah2 remarked: "If I tell people to be stingy they will say I'm wicked but imagine do you know what the person pass through to send that money for you. In Abroad you pay taxes for everything but in Nigeria we don't only if you want to."
This story is reminiscent of a similar case reported earlier, where a Nigerian lady complained about a small amount sent by a UK-based friend while she was in university. Years later, the same friend sent a much larger cash gift, sparking further reactions.
Financial Advice from a Nigerian Doctor in the UK
In a related development, Legit.ng reported that a Nigerian doctor living in the UK shared a financial rule she now follows: she no longer sends money home before paying herself first. She also spoke about other money decisions she has changed since relocating, highlighting the need for financial discipline among the diaspora.
The reactions to @DeemhanJupiter's post reflect the complex dynamics of relationships between Nigerians at home and abroad, where expectations often clash with the realities of life in a foreign country.
