Lifestyle content creator Simi Sanya Dapson has ignited a fierce online debate after candidly revealing that her cooking repertoire for her husband, music video producer and filmmaker Femi Dapson, is limited to just three meals: spaghetti, yam and egg, and bread and tea. The admission came during an interview on the Talk Your Talk podcast, aired on YouTube on July 10, and has since divided social media users over expectations around cooking, gender roles, and pre-marital communication.
Simi Sanya's Unapologetic Stance on Cooking
Simi was unapologetic about her limited cooking skills, insisting that she made her abilities clear to Femi Dapson before they married. She argued that honesty during the talking stage eliminates any room for disappointment later in a relationship. "You see me the way I am. You know that I don't know how to cook. Now I'm in a relationship; you will now say let me go and be cooking for you in your house every weekend… why? Was that the plan? Didn't I tell you before?" she said during the podcast.
She added that her husband has accepted the arrangement without protest since their wedding day. "Like me, in my marriage, I only know how to cook spaghetti, yam and egg, and bread and tea, and the boy has known, and he has not fought me since the day we got married. He has been eating the spaghetti with all goodness in his heart. Did he die?" she quipped.
Debate Over Cooking Expectations in Marriage
Simi also framed cooking compatibility as a serious point of discussion that couples should address before committing, noting that a mismatch in expectations around food could signal broader incompatibility. The clip reignited passionate debate about what couples should discuss before marriage and whether cooking skills are a non-negotiable trait in a spouse.
Social media users were quick to react, with many questioning her approach. @Chigozie_BOS wrote: "and the boy have know, he have nor fight me since the day we marry. This is just shameful. See how a wife is embarrassing and disgracing her husband. 'Did I not tell you before hand?', men are supposed to avoid this kind of women. How does this kind of woman want to care for you? Spaghetti and tea and bread? What a shame!"
Mixed Reactions from Social Media Users
Other users offered contrasting views. @Hi_Auzten commented: "I've seen a couple of you foaming in the cs. She told him from the start what she can cook and he eats it with goodness in his heart. He needs to eat something different? He gets a chef or if he knows how to make the meal he makes it. Do what works for you in your marriage!" @Sweet_Temiii added: "Cooking is a valuable life skill, but mutual understanding and support matter even more in a marriage."
Some users noted that Simi frequently brings up the topic in interviews, suggesting it may bother her. @Memnefer observed: "The fact that she talks about this same topic at every interview shows it bothers her." @TalksChurch cautioned: "Don't go and be like her. Her husband loved it, your husband may not like it."
Broader Context of Cooking in Relationships
The debate comes amid broader discussions about gender roles and domestic expectations in Nigerian marriages. Earlier, Legit.ng reported a story about a woman who could not cook for her husband for a week and worried about his meals. She recounted calling him to ask if he wanted a sandwich, but he reassured her that he could take care of himself. Her husband later praised her efforts, telling her it was not her job to feed him, which left her thrilled and grateful for his support.
Simi Sanya's comments have once again highlighted the diverse perspectives on what constitutes a healthy partnership, with many emphasizing that communication and mutual respect are key, regardless of cooking skills.
