Popular Nigerian media personality and actress, Toke Makinwa, has sparked a fresh conversation about relationships and trust with her candid views on infidelity.
Toke Makinwa's Controversial Take on Cheating
During a recent episode of her widely followed 'Toke Moments' podcast, Makinwa presented a perspective that challenges common societal narratives. She argued that women are just as involved in cheating as men, if not more. Her central claim is that while men's infidelity is often more visible, women engage in it more frequently but with greater secrecy.
The Ease and Discretion of Female Infidelity
Toke Makinwa elaborated on why she believes cheating is logistically simpler for women. She stated that men typically have to invest significant resources—money, effort, and time—to pursue affairs. In contrast, women are often in a position to receive such advances, making the act less complicated. "Do you know how easy it is for a woman to cheat? It's even easier for us. Men will spend money, effort, and time, but women are just receiving," she explained.
This dynamic, according to her, leads to women being far more discreet. Their infidelity is less likely to be discovered because it doesn't involve the same trail of expenses or planning. Makinwa emphasized that a woman's decision to remain faithful is therefore less about a lack of opportunity and more about personal choice and strength. "A woman not cheating is not because she cannot cheat. It's probably because she has strength," she stated, giving examples like interactions with a "work boyfriend."
How This Changed Her Personal Perspective
Makinwa revealed that this understanding has fundamentally altered her own approach to relationships and the concept of betrayal. She noted that the realization that cheating is not a male-exclusive act has made her reconsider its weight as an absolute dealbreaker. "As I grow older, I realise it's not only men who can cheat. Why do we make it seem like men are special?" she questioned.
She was quick to clarify that this does not mean she encourages unfaithfulness. "When I say cheating is not a dealbreaker, people think I'm encouraging it. That's not the case," Makinwa said. Instead, she now views it as a complex issue that comes with conditions, rather than an immediate reason to end a relationship. Her comments suggest a move towards a more pragmatic, though controversial, view of modern partnerships.
By sharing these thoughts publicly on December 28, 2025, Toke Makinwa has once again positioned herself at the center of a national discussion on love, trust, and gender dynamics in Nigeria.
