A post on the social media platform X has ignited a fierce and widespread debate among Nigerian netizens after a user shared controversial and bold advice concerning romantic relationships.
The Viral Relationship Advice That Divided Opinions
The conversation began when an X user, whose identity remains known by her handle, dropped a piece of relationship counsel that many found shocking. The core of her argument was that men should never use force to make their girlfriends stop communicating with former partners or to block their contacts.
She presented a reasoning that many considered painfully honest. According to her, deleting a phone number does not equate to deleting the emotions attached to it. She firmly stated that "women stay loyal to their feelings," implying that external pressure cannot change internal attachments.
The Exact Words That Fueled the Fire
The user wrote a direct message to men, which was quickly screenshotted and shared across platforms. Her instructions were clear and sequential:
"Do not force her to stop talking to her ex. Do not force her to block or delete his contact. If you force her, it won't change how she feels about him."
She then proposed an alternative course of action, advising men to, "quietly plan your life and take your attention away from her" if the girlfriend continues chatting with the ex after complaints have been raised. Her final piece of advice was blunt: "Then marry another woman when you're ready."
A Stark Warning About Paternity Fraud
The user did not stop at advising emotional detachment. She escalated the discussion by introducing a grave warning about paternity fraud, a sensitive topic in many relationship discourses.
She claimed that many women involved in cases of paternity fraud reportedly returned to the same ex-partner their current boyfriend or husband had previously complained about. This assertion added a layer of serious practical consequence to her initial advice about emotional autonomy, suggesting that ignoring a partner's continued connection with an ex could have long-term, life-altering risks.
The post, which was shared on April 12, 2025, at 2:01 AM, rapidly gained traction. It was reposted by popular blogger Linda Ikeji, amplifying its reach and ensuring it sparked a "serious conversation" online. Reactions have been intensely polarized, with some praising the advice for its raw honesty about human emotions, while others condemn it for seemingly justifying emotional infidelity and downplaying boundaries in committed relationships.
