You don post your Instagram or WhatsApp story, then you see am - your ex don watch am. That familiar name pop up for your viewers list, and suddenly your mind dey race. "Why this person still dey check my updates? Dem miss me? Dem dey monitor my life?"
This common digital phenomenon dey leave many Nigerians confused and emotionally unsettled. That simple act of story-watching fit carry plenty meaning, and e dey important understand whether na harmless habit or deliberate emotional manipulation.
Why Your Ex Still Dey Watch Your Stories
According to relationship experts, several reasons fit make your ex continue to monitor your social media activities:
- Curiosity: Dem just wan know how you dey do without dem
- Attachment: Dem still get feelings but no fit reach out directly
- Comparison: Dem wan see if you don move on faster pass dem
- Control: Some exes dey use this as subtle way to maintain influence
When E Dey Become Emotional Sabotage
While sometimes e fit be innocent, constant story-watching fit turn toxic. When your ex deliberately dey watch your stories to:
- Keep you emotionally connected to dem
- Make you overthink and analyze their intentions
- Prevent you from fully moving on
- Maintain some level of control over your emotions
Na this time e become emotional sabotage. E dey disrupt your healing process and keep you stuck in the past.
How Protect Your Peace
If your ex story-watching dey affect your mental health, consider these solutions:
Restrict or Block: Social media platforms get features wey fit help you control who see your content. No feel guilty for using am.
Take Digital Break: Sometimes, stepping away from social media entirely fit help you heal better.
Focus on Reality: Concentrate on your real-life connections and activities instead of online validation.
Set Boundaries: Remember say you get right to protect your peace, both online and offline.
Ultimately, whether your ex dey watch your stories na harmless habit or emotional warfare depend on how e dey affect you. If e dey disturb your peace, e dey important take action protect your mental health and continue your healing journey.
