A young Nigerian woman has ignited widespread discussion across social media platforms after publicly declaring her decision to never get married. Stephanie, a TikTok user, shared her unconventional views in a viral video that has drawn both support and criticism from netizens.
Spiritual and Practical Reasons Behind Her Decision
Stephanie explained that one of her primary reasons for rejecting marriage stems from spiritual concerns. She expressed strong opposition to the idea of praying for a man to love and care for her, which she described as a form of ritual that goes against free will.
In her own words, she elaborated: "I am not interested in praying for any man to love me and care for me because it is a form of ritual. When you are praying for someone to love and care for you, you are kind of going against someone else's freewill and freedom."
The young lady further warned that such practices could backfire with negative consequences, stating that even if they worked, they might come with punishment for interfering with another person's autonomy.
Views on Childbearing and Single Motherhood
Stephanie also revealed her stance on having children, expressing that she has no interest in traditional family structures. She mentioned that if she ever decided to have a child, she would prefer to be a single mother to a daughter, but expressed deep concerns about bringing a female child into what she perceives as a dangerous world for women.
Her maternal concerns focused on the safety of women in contemporary society. She explained: "I love my unborn daughter so much that I will not like to bring her into this kind of world. I have not even figured out what is going on, where men abuse women, where women don't have a say. I don't want that kind of thing for my daughter."
She dismissed suggestions about choosing the right partner, noting that people's feelings can change unpredictably, and there would be no consequences for someone who decides to leave a relationship.
Strong Message to Women Dating Broke Men
Stephanie didn't hold back when addressing women in relationships with financially struggling men. She delivered a blunt message: "If you are a woman and you are dating a broke man, it does not count and once that man makes money and decides to leave you for another woman, nothing will happen to him. He will continue to live fine."
This particular statement added fuel to the already heated discussion about financial dynamics in Nigerian relationships.
Mixed Reactions from Social Media Users
The video, published on November 10, 2025, has generated significant engagement across various platforms. Supporters applauded Stephanie's independent thinking, while critics questioned her perspectives on marriage and relationships.
One user named Gi commented: "You made the best decision... Marriage is not worth it, even kids.. I have left my husband and not going back to him."
Another supporter, _xxx.pearl, added: "Exactly dear aside money I don't think men do a lot of things like we women, gone are those days people think if you don't marry nobody will take care of you in old age."
However, not everyone agreed with Stephanie's position. User Ruu baby responded: "Everyday I come on the internet some of you want to change my mindset about what I want but sorry I want a man I can't do what a man can do."
Many commentators noted the irony of people getting upset about someone else's personal life choices. Just Trixx observed: "People being worked up about another person's choice will forever be funny to me. Like what in the ego is that."
The discussion has expanded beyond Stephanie's original video, touching on broader themes of women's autonomy, traditional marriage values in Nigerian society, and evolving gender dynamics in modern relationships.
