A Nigerian man has ignited a passionate conversation about love and financial responsibility in romantic partnerships by making a bold declaration. Abraham Augustine, in a recent social media post, asserted that a man who genuinely loves his woman will demonstrate it through monetary gifts and consistent support.
The Core Argument: Giving as a Measure of Love
Augustine shared his perspective on Facebook on Tuesday, January 20, 2026, responding to a common grievance among women. His post was prompted by a lady's complaint that her partner refuses to give her money even when she explicitly asks for assistance. According to Augustine, this behavior represents a significant warning sign in any relationship.
Why Financial Support Matters
"Giving in a relationship is based on the heart condition of both parties," Augustine wrote. "There's no man who truly loves a woman that won't give. You must not have plenty to give; one must be intentional, and that's sacrifice." He emphasized that the act of giving doesn't require immense wealth but rather deliberate effort and willingness to make sacrifices for one's partner.
Augustine drew a powerful parallel to illustrate his point: "Even God gave us His best to prove His love." He argued that if divine love is demonstrated through giving, human relationships should follow a similar pattern of generosity.
Addressing Women's Practical Needs
The Nigerian man specifically highlighted the financial realities women face in daily life. "A woman's life is full of expenses," he noted, suggesting that men should occasionally surprise their partners with money for personal upkeep, hairstyling, or essential purchases.
"It's not your responsibility, but this is the woman you want to marry. Would she rather look tattered for you? God forbid," Augustine questioned rhetorically. He maintained that supporting a woman's appearance and well-being reflects genuine care and investment in the relationship's future.
Countering Common Arguments
Augustine acknowledged that women also have financial resources and should contribute to relationships. However, he distinguished between mutual support and a man's specific responsibility to give. "While that may be true, giving a woman money isn't about lavishly spending on her. A man must give," he insisted.
He challenged men who never provide any financial support: "How can you be dating a woman and you've never given her money to make her hair, buy her gifts or support her in little ways you can?"
The Kindness Principle in Relationships
Augustine made a compelling comparison between general human kindness and romantic generosity. "We assist people we don't even date. That's kindness. Why can't same kindness be extended to the woman we love?" he asked. He believes that generosity enhances a man's attractiveness and demonstrates true character.
The Facebook post concluded with a warning about future implications: "Kindness makes a man attractive. If you don't give in a relationship, you can't give in marriage." Augustine framed financial giving as a fundamental practice that establishes patterns for long-term commitment.
This perspective has generated significant discussion among Nigerians, with many debating whether financial support should be considered an essential component of romantic love or if relationships should prioritize other forms of emotional and practical care.
