A Nigerian woman's public renunciation of feminism has sparked intense debate across social media platforms after she revealed that practicing feminist principles in her marriage led to continuous conflict with her husband.
From Feminist Advocate to Traditional Wife
The TikTok user known as @an_gel52 made headlines when she announced her departure from the feminist movement in a candid video posted online. According to her emotional testimony, she had been absent from social media for an extended period due to ongoing disputes with her spouse, who she identified as a Benin man.
The woman confessed that she initially embraced feminism after following numerous feminist accounts on social media platforms. She explained that she decided to implement feminist principles within her household, but this approach clashed dramatically with her husband's expectations and cultural background.
The Breaking Point in Her Marriage
"I haven't posted on this group because I have been fighting with my husband," the woman revealed in her video. "And because of that, I didn't want to sound like a hypocrite. I didn't want to teach 'A' and then do 'B' at home."
She described how her attempts to practice feminism at home resulted in months of continuous arguments. "I started following all these feminists on social media. I come say make I do small, you know, feminism for my house, and I forgot that my husband is a Benin man. It didn't go that way," she recounted.
The marital conflict became so severe that she felt compelled to step back from her online presence, stating that her conscience wouldn't allow her to continue advocating for feminist principles while experiencing difficulties implementing them in her own marriage.
Return to Traditional Values
In her announcement, the woman enthusiastically declared her return to what she described as her "old self." She revealed plans to resume creating content that teaches women to be submissive to their husbands, marking a complete reversal from her previous feminist advocacy.
"Anyways guys, I am back to my old self. I am back to being submissive. Yes. Because it didn't work for me. It can never work," she stated emphatically. "And besides, that is not who I am. Sometimes, I like control, and I like being submissive."
She concluded her announcement by outlining her new direction: "So, I just want to tell you guys that I am back to teaching you guys how to be submissive, how to be a good wife..."
Mixed Reactions from Social Media Users
The woman's dramatic shift in立场 has generated widespread discussion across Nigerian social media circles. Comments on her video revealed sharply divided opinions about her decision.
One user, @skytech808, commented: "Feminism in Nigeria is not to be controlled by there husband or man that's all."
Another commenter, Nana Nelson, offered a more balanced perspective: "Everybody should know whom they're married to, and respect yourself. What works for Mr.A may not work for Mr.B."
User @winimandela provided a detailed explanation of what feminism should represent: "Feminism doesn't mean u should lose ur sense of reasons or duty as a woman, it simply means u should be given the same treatment on basic life right as a woman... don't come and preach feminism where is not needed."
Another commenter, talkwithyalty, specifically addressed the cultural dynamics at play: "My love being a feminist doesn't mean you can't be a good wife or a submissive woman... And Benin men want control not love! Love is not control, love is freedom!"
The discussion has expanded beyond this individual case to broader conversations about the compatibility of feminist principles with traditional Nigerian marriage expectations and cultural norms.
