A UK-based Nigerian man has sparked a viral conversation on TikTok with his blunt guide on identifying which people abroad will genuinely help you relocate and which ones to cut off. His advice, aimed at Nigerians dreaming of moving abroad, emphasizes the importance of reading between the lines when contacting acquaintances overseas.
The Simple Test: Listen to Their Response
According to the man, the test is straightforward. When you reach out to someone abroad and ask how life is treating them, pay close attention to their words and tone. A genuinely good person will give an honest, encouraging response, acknowledging the hustle while speaking positively about the experience.
However, a red flag is when someone consistently sounds miserable, complains endlessly, and offers nothing constructive. An even bigger warning sign is when that same person tries to steer you away from your dream of relocating by suggesting you start a business in Nigeria instead, particularly something like poultry farming.
The Irony of the Poultry Farm Suggestion
The man pointed out the irony that many of these same people had heard the very same arguments before they left Nigeria and still chose to travel. Some, he added, had even arrived abroad with thousands of dollars and never opened the farm they were recommending to others.
His core message is direct: anyone who discourages you from pursuing life abroad instead of actively trying to bring you through is not your ally. A true friend or family member who is already settled, even if only temporarily, will offer to house you, guide you, and help you find your footing, even if only for a couple of months.
Block and Keep Moving
The man acknowledged that some people will attempt to disguise their negativity, denying their discouragement even when confronted with evidence. For him, that denial itself confirms everything. His advice to anyone encountering such behavior was clear cut: stop engaging, block the contact, and keep pushing forward.
The video, filmed outdoors on a sunny day in what appears to be an open urban walkway, has resonated with many Nigerians in the diaspora and at home, sparking discussions about the challenges of japa and the importance of surrounding oneself with supportive contacts.
Related: Nigerian Man Relocates to Ireland
Meanwhile, Legit.ng previously reported that a young Nigerian man shared his excitement on social media after taking a new step to further his education. In a now-viral video posted via his official TikTok account, he proudly documented his relocation journey to Ireland.
This story highlights the ongoing trend of Nigerians seeking opportunities abroad, with many turning to social media for guidance and inspiration. The UK-based man's advice serves as a practical guide for those navigating the complex process of relocation, emphasizing the need to filter out negative influences.
As the japa wave continues, such firsthand tips become invaluable for those hoping to make the leap. The man's message is clear: surround yourself with people who build you up, not those who tear you down, and never let anyone dim your dreams of a better life abroad.
