Nigerian celebrity fashion designer Victoria James, popularly known as Veekee James, has ignited a fiery debate across social media platforms following her comments on the dynamics of financial responsibility within marriage.
The Controversial Statement
The incident occurred at the 'LadiesTalk' conference, where James expressed her profound admiration for women who achieve financial self-reliance. In a video clip that has since gone viral, the designer advocated for women's financial independence, stating they should not feel compelled to wait for money from their spouses.
She elaborated, saying, "And the one that stands out the most is that she does not wait around for her husband’s money; she feeds her home, she works hard with her own hand, she feeds her husband, her children, and staff." This statement, intended to empower, quickly became the epicenter of a digital storm.
Social Media Erupts in Backlash
While a segment of online users supported James's perspective on building personal financial stability, a significant wave of criticism, predominantly from female netizens, swiftly followed. Critics argued that her advice, while perhaps applicable to her own marriage with husband Femi Atere, was not a universal solution.
One female netizen suggested that James's viewpoint was shaped by her personal reality, implying she was not privileged to marry a wealthy man and thus has to be the primary provider. She advised the designer to keep such counsel to herself.
Another critic directly accused James of belittling her husband with her remarks, firmly stating that the primary role of a provider falls to men, with women stepping in to assist only if they have the capacity.
Mixed Reactions from Netizens
The online discourse presents a clear divide in public opinion. Here are some of the compiled reactions:
- @Hamxher_01 reacted: "Honestly, her point makes sense. Building your own stability doesn’t take anything away from your marriage; it just protects you and your kids. Depending solely on a partner is risky. Empowering yourself financially isn’t disrespect, it’s wisdom."
- @Abdulsalam5476 said: "Only low-quality women will dispute that, as a lady, your spouse is your partner. You are to build together; there’s no competition."
- @cuppydat argued: "She’s saying this cos she married a poor man. She’s the bread winner. You don’t have to impose this on women whose situations are different."
- @MzTaiwoO commented: "In this economy, no parent should be carrying the full load, and we shouldn’t use 'strong woman' narratives to excuse men from their duties."
- @theayodejji reacted: "Everyone should do whatever works for their marriage. Some rich men with rich wives still prefer to be the sole provider."
This is not the first time Veekee James has found herself at the center of public scrutiny. Legit.ng previously reported that a pastor blasted her for claiming the holy spirit inspired the design of Priscilla Ojo's wedding dress, which he deemed inappropriate.
