The mother of Afrobeats sensation Ayra Starr has sparked a major conversation online after candidly explaining her reasons for severing ties with some friends she had known for over twenty years. In a viral video that has resonated deeply with many Nigerians, she highlighted issues of breached trust and emotional drain as her breaking point.
"Do I Even Know Your Husband?": The Betrayal of Private Conversations
In the video circulating on X, formerly Twitter, the celebrity mum detailed a specific friendship that collapsed due to a consistent and unsettling pattern. She revealed that a close friend had a habit of immediately relaying their private "girl talk" to her husband. This left Ayra Starr's mother feeling exposed and vulnerable to a man she barely knew.
"I told my husband, and he said it was okay. But why would you share what we discussed with your husband? Do I even know him?" she questioned pointedly in the clip. She emphasized that while she respects marriage, she no longer felt safe knowing her personal thoughts were being disseminated to a third party. This breach of trust became a non-negotiable turning point, leading her to stop taking the friend's calls altogether.
Walking Away from Decades of Friendship
The mother of five also recounted another friendship that ended because of excessive interference from the friend's husband. She described the man frequently inserting himself into matters that were strictly between the two women, making the friendship feel unsafe and cluttered with outside opinions.
"I don't like third parties in my personal relationships," she implied, stating that the constant involvement became unbearable over time, forcing her to withdraw emotionally and eventually cut ties completely.
In a separate but equally draining scenario, she spoke about a friend married for over two decades who used her as a constant emotional dumping ground for marital complaints. While she initially offered support, the relentless negativity began to severely impact her own mental health.
"It became mentally exhausting," she confessed, noting that protecting her own emotional well-being ultimately took precedence. She realized she could no longer carry the unresolved pain of someone else's marriage, leading to the end of that long-standing friendship as well.
Nigerians React: A Divided Opinion on Boundaries
The revelations have stirred significant reactions online, with netizens sharing divided perspectives on friendship, marriage, and boundaries.
Some users, like @Cuttixtine72, supported her stance, commenting: "That's your principle or should I say boundaries and I admire that. Somethings are meant to be kept within and marriages are meant to be respected."
Others offered a different view. User @ugosimbaaputago suggested she overreacted, noting that women in love often innocently share details with their partners. Meanwhile, @Emmyblaak humorously remarked, "You no get husband no mean say make who get no gist with him own."
The video has clearly struck a chord, opening up a broader dialogue about the complex dynamics between friendship, privacy, and marital relationships in contemporary Nigerian society.
