A Nigerian man has ignited a heated online debate after sharing his contrasting expectations for his wife and his daughter. In a lengthy post, he stated that he desires an obedient, humble, and submissive wife who never questions him, but he is actively raising his daughter to be the complete opposite—hard-headed, opinionated, and confrontational.
The Husband's Ideal Wife
The man described his ideal wife as humble, obedient, very submissive, soft-spoken, comforting, and non-confrontational. He illustrated his point with an example: he expects his wife to obey without question when he asks her to go to the gate, without asking why. He wrote: "I want my wife humble, obedient, VERY submissive, soft-spoken, comforting, and non-confrontational." He added that she should consider him "her lord on this earth" and trust that he loves, covers, and provides for her.
Raising a 'Menace' of a Daughter
In stark contrast, the man declared that he wants his daughter to be "hard-headed, opinionated, confrontational, self-sufficient bee+ch" and "a complete menace to any useless man who crosses her path." He aims to make her so formidable that any badly raised man would feel insecure and retreat upon meeting her. He wrote: "I want the man she ends up with to understand from Day One that this is not a woman you gamble with."
Justifying the Double Standard
Acknowledging the apparent hypocrisy, the man defended his stance by explaining that he trusts himself as a husband but not the "boys other parents are raising." He said: "I trust the kind of man I am and will continue to be. I cannot say the same for the boys other parents are raising." He argued that fathers and husbands are solving two different problems: as a husband, he knows the type of woman he wants beside him, and as a father, he knows the type of woman he needs to send into a world full of poorly raised men.
Social Media Reactions
The post, shared by Linda Ikeji, quickly went viral, with many users calling the man hypocritical while others supported his reasoning. Some commenters questioned how he could expect his daughter to respect a man if she is raised to be confrontational, while others agreed that the current generation of sons is not being raised properly. The man concluded: "Someone will call it hypocrisy. I genuinely don't care."
