Shocking Marriage Advice Sparks Outrage
A Nigerian woman, Monica Uwem Inyang, has revealed disturbing advice she received from someone she deeply respects about her marriage prospects as a single mother. The conversation, which occurred on Tuesday, November 25, 2025, left many questioning societal expectations placed on single parents seeking relationships.
The Controversial Conversation
In a heartfelt Facebook post that has since gained significant attention, Inyang disclosed that this respected individual told her she must "keep aside" her 12-year-old son if she hopes to find a husband. The person went further to explain that she shouldn't expect any man to feel comfortable with her child's presence in their potential relationship.
"Random thought I just remembered how someone I respect a lot on this app told me, Monica.. if you want to get married you must keep your son aside, like don't expect the man to be comfortable with your son," Inyang wrote in her post that has sparked widespread discussion about single motherhood in Nigeria.
A Mother's Powerful Response
Inyang's reaction to this advice was both poignant and defiant. She described how the comment has affected her perception, noting that whenever she sees her son dressed smartly for work in his suit and shiny shoes, she now sees him through the lens of this hurtful suggestion.
"Since then, anytime I see him wearing suit with his shiny shoe to work..in my eyes he's naked like the Ancient mad man named 'National' that used to stay at Itam Junction," she expressed, using powerful imagery to convey her emotional turmoil.
The mother didn't hold back in her final assessment of the situation, directly questioning the audacity behind such advice: "I don't know where some of you buy audacity from to be honest. A for Audacity."
Broader Implications for Single Parents
This incident highlights the ongoing challenges faced by single parents, particularly mothers, in the Nigerian dating scene. The expectation that children should be hidden or marginalized for relationship success remains a contentious issue in many communities.
Inyang's decision to share this personal experience has opened up important conversations about parental priorities and societal pressures surrounding marriage and family dynamics. Her stance reinforces that a child should never be treated as an obstacle to happiness but rather as an integral part of a parent's life and identity.
