Nigerian media personality and actress Shine Rosman has sparked important conversations about relationships by stating that not everyone is destined for marriage. During her recent appearance on the Open Up Podcast, the talented actress shared candid views about modern relationships, commitment fears, and what it truly takes to build lasting partnerships.
Marriage Requires Work and Sacrifice
Shine Rosman emphasized that successful relationships demand significant effort from both partners. The actress explained that marriage requires daily work, sacrifice, and complete honesty between couples. She noted that some individuals simply prefer being alone rather than committing to the demands of marriage.
"Not everybody is meant to be married," Shine stated clearly during the podcast episode published on Thursday. "Some people are not willing to put in the work, and some just don't want it. They are just okay with being by themselves, and it's not by force."
Advice for Young Nigerians Seeking Love
The Nollywood star, known for her role in 'To Kill a Monkey,' offered crucial advice to young people contemplating relationships. She warned against entering partnerships without clear intentions and proper mindset. Shine urged young Nigerians to avoid mindless relationships and instead seek genuine connections.
"Do not enter relationships mindlessly," she cautioned. "If you want to have a fling, have a fling, but do not step into a relationship without clarity. Being in a relationship requires a lot of work, sacrifice and daily effort."
Parental Influence and Hope for Love
Reflecting on her personal life, Shine revealed how her parents' marriage shaped her positive outlook on love. She described growing up watching her father's unwavering love for her mother despite normal relationship challenges. Her parents' example inspired her desire to experience genuine companionship in her own life.
"For me, I want to get married because I had a beautiful example growing up," Shine shared. "My parents were not perfect, but every day I looked at them and thought, whatever you two have, I want it. My dad was so in love with my mum. No matter how much she frustrated him, he always loved her."
However, the actress acknowledged that not everyone had similar positive examples. She encouraged those who grew up without witnessing healthy relationships to remain open to love's possibilities. "For those who did not grow up seeing that kind of love, I want you to know that it is real. It exists. Do not let your pain make you believe otherwise," she added compassionately.
Addressing Concerning Relationship Trends
Shine didn't shy away from criticizing inappropriate relationship dynamics she observes in Nigerian society. She specifically called out older men who engage with much younger women, describing the behavior as shameful and disrespectful.
"I see older men in clubs dancing with girls the same age as their daughters, and I am like, Daddy, have some shame," she expressed with concern. "Your children are the same age as this girl you are dancing with."
Despite addressing these concerning trends, Shine maintains hope for finding lasting love. She shared an inspiring encounter that reinforced her belief in enduring relationships. The actress recalled seeing an elderly couple at a concert who embodied the kind of love she aspires to experience.
"I once went to a concert and saw a beautiful couple in their 50s and 60s dancing together," she remembered fondly. "They were laughing, having fun and you could tell they genuinely loved each other."
Through her honest discussion, Shine Rosman has provided valuable insights into relationship dynamics in contemporary Nigerian society, encouraging thoughtful consideration of what it means to commit to another person.
