Nigerian Woman Cuts Ties With Overseas Friend After Years of Being Ignored
A Nigerian lady has publicly shared her reasons for blocking a friend who had been living abroad for seven years, revealing a story of one-sided communication and a sudden request for assistance that she found unacceptable. The woman, identified online as @AdageorgeA, detailed her experience on social media platform X, explaining that her decision came after years of trying to maintain a connection with the friend to no avail.
Years of Unanswered Messages Lead to Final Straw
According to @AdageorgeA, her friend's attitude changed completely after he successfully relocated overseas. She stated that he stopped responding to her messages on Facebook and would not even reply when she commented on his posts. This pattern of being ignored persisted for years, creating what she described as a significant disappointment in their friendship.
"My friend travelled out of the country 7 Years ago. He stop responding to my message on Facebook and also even if I commented on his post, he doesn't reply," she wrote in her X post that has since gone viral.
Sudden Request for Help With Family Matters
The situation reached a breaking point when the same friend messaged her on TikTok, asking her to visit his ill mother in Nigeria. He expressed concerns about possible foul play involving his siblings and explained that he was sending all his money to support his mother's care.
"Last night he messaged me on TikTok, telling me to go and see his mom, that she wasn't feeling well and he is sending all his money," @AdageorgeA recounted. "I told him to send his younger sister, which I know is still in Nigeria, he said is suspecting that they are playing him."
Decision to Block and Online Reactions
In response to what she perceived as opportunistic behavior, @AdageorgeA decided to block her friend on all social media platforms. She made it clear that she considered the matter to be family business that she did not want to be involved in, especially given the history of being ignored.
"Well I told him that whatever happened to his mom, its his family business.. Then I blocked him on TikTok and Facebook," she stated in her post, adding "You guys should have sense" as advice to others in similar situations.
The story has generated significant reactions online, with many users supporting her decision:
- @Y_Biologist commented: "God bless you for this. I hate when person love to use me. You didn't reply to my text bcus u think I want to beg you... then you don't need my assistance too."
- @HerbertJane06 wrote: "He is more of a user and a fair-weather acquaintance than a real friend. He only remembers you when he's having trust issues with his siblings—not because he truly values your friendship."
- @Baruch_Bashan stated: "He is a user.. So he was looking for somebody he can use again to do his bidding and ordinary Facebook message he couldn't respond.. You did the right thing."
Broader Context of Diaspora Relationships
This incident highlights the complex dynamics that can develop in friendships when one person relocates abroad. The story has resonated with many Nigerians who have experienced similar situations where communication patterns change dramatically after someone moves overseas, only to be contacted when assistance is needed back home.
The viral post has sparked conversations about:
- The importance of maintaining reciprocal relationships
- Setting boundaries in friendships
- How relocation can affect social connections
- When it's appropriate to cut ties with people who only reach out when they need something
While some have suggested she should have explained her reasons before blocking him, the majority of online commentators have supported @AdageorgeA's decision to protect her emotional wellbeing and establish clear boundaries in her relationships.
