A Nigerian mother based abroad has opened up about her difficult decision to leave her children in Nigeria and relocate to China to further her education and chase her lifelong dreams.
The Dream and The Decision
In a heartfelt video posted on her TikTok page, @nekschinadiaries, the woman explained that she had always harboured ambitions of returning to school and building something for herself. She revealed that she received a scholarship to study in China, which she saw as a divine opportunity. According to her, after dedicating years to her children, she felt it was finally time to pour into herself and invest in her own future.
The video, which quickly gained traction online, was captioned: "This is my story on why I moved to China. Welcome to the new chapter of my life. I would really appreciate all your prayers and words of encouragement." She also shared that she had to wait until after giving birth before she could actively pursue these personal goals.
Mixed Reactions Flood Social Media
The mother's candid revelation sparked a flood of mixed reactions in the comment section of her video. While many netizens offered support and prayers, others expressed the complexities of such a choice, especially for parents.
User @Abena_Med_Aphrodisiac inquired: "please ma how can I come to china to study on scholarship like u. I'm also a mum of 1." Another user, @Mma, offered strong encouragement: "You've got this. I'm really rooting for this phase of your life... your children will know you as the mom who also chose herself, not the one who resents them in future for stalling her life and dreams."
Prayers were also abundant, with @Potterhands Ebun Anu declaring: "Jesus Christ, will raise men in that land to bless you greatly in Jesus name Amen."
A Relatable Struggle for Many Parents
The conversation highlighted a common dilemma faced by many parents, particularly mothers. Some commenters pointed out that having a support system is crucial for such bold moves.
User @Hallelujah 2026 commented: "That's because you have someone to give your kids too so as to chase your dreams. I have absolutely no one to give my kids too so as to chase mine." Similarly, @Alade Mercy expressed her own turmoil: "I’m planning to leave my 3 years to school but heaven is setting loose because of that decision at home."
The discussion also veered into broader advice for parents. @Justbuy_ng urged: "I will always say that Parents, please take care of yourselves, you deserve all the good stuff too... Nor go wake up one day con dey regret oh, abeg." Others, like @arabinrin, shared personal tragedies of parental loss, emphasising the importance of a parent's presence.
Practical questions about the opportunity also arose, with @Ashvath Stephen asking: "I have two kids too and this is exactly the direction I'm thinking. Which scholarship did you get and how can one apply?"
The story, published on December 19, 2025, by Human Interest Editor Victoria Nwahiri, continues to resonate with a wide audience, touching on themes of sacrifice, self-investment, and the pursuit of personal ambition amidst parental responsibilities.
