Nigerian Man Expresses Hurt After Job Recipient Declines Birthday Whiskey Request
A Nigerian man has ignited widespread online discussion after publicly sharing his feelings of disappointment toward a woman he assisted in securing employment. The man, identified on social media platform X as @ALEX_SMARTT, detailed an experience that has prompted intense debates about gratitude, entitlement, and the expectations surrounding acts of kindness.
Background of the Assistance Provided
According to the man's account, in September 2025, he actively promoted the woman's curriculum vitae until she successfully landed a job. On her first day of work, he demonstrated further support by sending her N48,000 to cover initial transportation and feeding expenses. The woman began earning a monthly salary of N130,000 starting in October, which she reportedly spent entirely.
The man explained that his birthday occurred on November 3, 2025. To mark the occasion, he jokingly requested that she send him a bottle of Jameson whiskey, which he estimated would cost approximately N12,000. The woman declined his request, explaining that she was saving money to rent a house.
Emotional Response and Social Media Post
In his social media post, the man expressed deep hurt over her response. He clarified that he does not consider himself entitled to rewards for helping others but felt the interaction revealed a lack of appreciation. His post read in part: "Last year September, I hawked this girl cv till I got her a job. The day she was meant to start, I sent her 48k make she Dey use guide per transport and small small food. Her first salary 130k in October, she Pam am. She collected November salary… It was my birthday on 3rd of that month… I whine her 'fine shyt you no go send me a bottle of Jameson?' mind you, Jameson = 12k. This girl told me she was saving to rent a house… Guy! My head wan blow… I’m not even an entitled mo’fucker. Cos I really do not expect anything from even the people I’m most kind to. But that is equally not an excuse for you to be a sh!tty person."
Mixed Reactions from Online Community
The post quickly garnered significant attention, with users expressing diverse opinions on the matter. Some defended the woman's position, arguing that her reason for saving was legitimate and that assistance should not come with strings attached.
- User @Moyosoreo_luwa commented: "But her reason was genuine and since you said you weren’t entitled, you no suppose deep am, e no go far."
- User @sheymanishere stated: "She get good reason tho not like she dey lavish and btw can’t you help without looking to get back? if you can’t then don’t help."
Others criticized the woman's perceived lack of appreciation, suggesting that basic gratitude was warranted given the level of support provided.
- User @Interiorssdotng remarked: "You’re entitled. She’s not appreciative. Full stop. Call a spade a spade."
Broader Implications and Cultural Context
This incident highlights ongoing conversations within Nigerian society regarding interpersonal relationships and the moral obligations that may accompany acts of generosity. The debate touches on themes of reciprocity, financial priorities, and emotional expectations in friendships or acquaintanceships where significant assistance has been rendered.
The story has resonated widely, reflecting common experiences where individuals feel undervalued after offering help. It also raises questions about whether informal support networks should involve implicit expectations of future reciprocation, especially in contexts where economic pressures are prevalent.
As discussions continue across social media platforms, this case serves as a poignant example of the complex dynamics between kindness, gratitude, and personal boundaries in contemporary Nigerian interactions.
