A young Nigerian woman has set social media abuzz after revealing an unexpected romantic proposal from a commercial motorcycle rider, commonly known as an 'okada' man, who regularly provides her transport. The incident, which unfolded on the popular platform TikTok, has sparked widespread debate and mixed reactions from netizens across the country.
An Unexpected Declaration of Love
The TikTok user, identified as @remain_lisa, shared screenshots and details of a private WhatsApp conversation that left her utterly confused. According to her post, the message from the bike man arrived suddenly and without any prior indication of romantic interest. She initially thought the text was sent to her by mistake, as nothing in their previous interactions as service provider and client suggested such a development.
The situation escalated when the man followed up his text with a voice note on WhatsApp. In the audio recording, he openly professed his feelings and laid out a proposal for a serious but clandestine relationship. He emphasized the need for mutual seriousness and secrecy, explicitly stating that their connection should remain hidden from everyone else.
The Bike Man's Proposal in His Own Words
In the voice note, which the lady shared details of, the man was quoted as saying: "You because I love you. I want you to take me serious and I will take you serious. Anything within my power I will do for you but you will take care of me. That's what love is. Me and you will get into agreement. Our friendship is secret. I don't want anybody to know. You're the first woman I want to love in this Port Harcourt. If you accept, I will accept you too. But it's secret love."
The lady expressed particular bewilderment at his condition that she would "take care of him" as part of the arrangement. She made it clear that she had only ever viewed him as a transport service provider and was taken aback by the advance. "My bike man texted me out of the blue. At first I was thinking the message is for someone else. But what does he mean by I should take care of him?" she questioned in her post.
Social Media Erupts with Mixed Reactions
The viral post quickly drew a flood of comments from TikTok users, with opinions sharply divided. Some saw humor and potential in the situation, while others criticized the lady for publicly sharing the man's private advance.
User @duziem humorously advised: "Accept ohh, before you would hear he was a billionaire disguised as a bike man to find true love." Another commenter, @ernestomaximum8, offered a pragmatic perspective: "The only different between ur bike man and ur boyfriend na money, if ur bike man get money pass ur boyfriend i swear you go switch and date that ur bike man."
However, not all reactions were supportive of the lady's decision to post the chat. User @NejiBlaq commented: "This isn't fair. He likes you, it's not a bad thing. if you don't like him tell him. don't share it with the world in mockery." Similarly, @DON WILLIAM suggested a more private rejection: "If you can't accept him tell him na using sticker to respond, it kill the man inside his in love he's only trying to share his feelings."
Some users, like @BIGWIZZY, speculated that parts of the conversation might have been omitted, questioning the full context based on the man's opening phrase "You because I love you."
A Broader Conversation on Boundaries and Advances
This incident, which occurred in Port Harcourt, taps into broader conversations in Nigeria about unsolicited romantic advances, the boundaries between service providers and clients, and the ethics of sharing private interactions on social media. The story, originally reported by Legit.ng on December 16, 2025, continues to resonate as people weigh in on the bike man's boldness, the lady's reaction, and the appropriate way to handle such personal proposals.
The episode serves as a reminder of the unpredictable ways social interactions can evolve and how digital platforms like TikTok have become arenas for public judgment and collective storytelling about personal dilemmas.
