Mental health professionals in Nigeria have issued a critical call to action, highlighting that depression among men is a growing yet frequently ignored issue. They stress that raising public awareness and improving early detection are essential steps to prevent devastating consequences.
Conference Sounds Alarm on Men's Mental Health
This urgent message formed the core of the discussions at the 2025 edition of “A Fight for Life: Men’s Mental Health Conference.” The event was organised by the Mindfully with Tunmise Podcast, led by the creative head at Blackhemages Media Concept.
The Convener, Oluwatumise Kuku, emphasised the importance of the dialogue, pointing out that this year's theme, “Navigating Depression in Men,” connects with global men's health initiatives observed every November. She explained that rigid cultural expectations significantly contribute to depression in men, often forcing them to conceal their emotions.
"Many men grow up without learning how to manage stress, relationships, or family duties," Kuku noted. She observed that from a young age, males are seldom taught to understand or handle their feelings, yet society expects them to mature into providers and protectors who must always appear strong. This pressure, she said, frequently leads men into unhealthy coping mechanisms.
Kuku encouraged men to begin developing self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and financial responsibility early on. "When you align your values and take care of yourself first, you can lead a healthier, more balanced life," she advised.
The Silent, Deadly Disconnect in Male Depression
Dr. Emmanuel Abayomi, a Consultant Psychiatrist at the Neuropsychiatric Hospital in Aro, Abeokuta, shed light on the silent danger of depression in men. He presented a stark contrast in global statistics: while women are diagnosed with depression twice as often as men, the reported rate of suicide is four times higher among men.
"This suggests a serious disconnect," Dr. Abayomi stated. "It is very likely that a significant number of men suffering from depression are not identified. Research indicates that 90 per cent of people who die by suicide have a background of mental illness."
The psychiatrist outlined key warning signs that men and their loved ones should watch for:
- Significant changes in sleep patterns (too much or too little)
- Changes in appetite
- Persistent sadness or a low mood
- Increased irritability, anger, or aggression
- Loss of interest in hobbies and activities
- Constant fatigue and low energy
- Forgetfulness and difficulty concentrating
- Feelings of low self-worth
- Reduced interest in sex (low libido)
Dr. Abayomi's message to men was clear and direct: "You are not alone. Don't die in silence. Speak up. There is nothing to be ashamed about. Depression is a disease of the brain and we all have a brain, we are all vulnerable to it. Seek help and speak up."
Cultural Pressures and the Path Forward
Panelist Emmanuel Effiong-Bright, a cross-cultural creator, echoed the sentiment that cultural norms are a major hurdle. "Regarding depression in men, many are culturally conditioned to keep things to themselves," he said. "Society has programmed us to be tough problem-solvers. Women often have support networks, but men can feel too vulnerable to admit they need help."
He urged men to break this silence, speak out, and consciously build personal values, as this preparation is crucial for facing future challenges.
The conference, held on 2 December 2025, served as a powerful platform to dismantle the stigma surrounding men's mental health in Nigeria, advocating for a future where seeking help is seen as a sign of strength, not weakness.
