A Nigerian mother residing in Canada has publicly shared the painful reasons behind the end of her marriage, revealing a story of betrayal and abandonment that has sparked widespread discussion online.
The Final Straw: A Shocking Betrayal
In a candid social media post, the woman, identified as Ada Igbo, disclosed that the defining moment leading to her departure was her husband's infidelity with their domestic help. She explicitly stated that he had impregnated their maid, an act that shattered the foundation of their relationship. This revelation came in response to questions from followers about her reasons for leaving.
Ada Igbo marked a painful anniversary, noting that January 4th will be one full year since she left the marriage with her four children. She has spent the subsequent months facing criticism and unsolicited advice from people questioning her decision to become a single parent.
Facing Criticism and Financial Abandonment
The mother detailed the common refrains she hears from critics, who suggest she should not bear the burden alone and that the children's father should be providing support. She addressed these points directly, explaining her impossible position.
She wrote a formal letter to her ex-husband requesting financial support for their children, but he read it and ignored it completely. His family also remained silent, offering no intervention or assistance. This financial and emotional abandonment left her with no viable co-parenting partner.
"People talk like single parenting is a choice I woke up and made for fun," she expressed with frustration. She emphasized that she had tried communication first and highlighted the impossibility of forcing responsibility onto a man who had chosen to be absent and unresponsive.
Choosing Children Over Public Opinion
Faced with a partner who refused to engage, Ada Igbo posed a poignant question to her critics: "How do you make a man who has chosen to be a deadbeat suddenly become involved in his children’s lives?" She firmly stated that she did not choose her situation but was left with no other safe option for herself and her children.
Her resolve is clear. She declared her continued commitment to choosing her children's well-being over public opinion. In a heartfelt plea made just days before Christmas, she shared her story in the hope of finding support and understanding.
Netizens React to Her Story
The post attracted significant attention and sympathy from online users. Many commentators criticized the ex-husband's actions and mindset.
User Omoze Edadagbon noted the particular pain, observing, "And they are all boys ooo. Some Men don't always have an emotional connection towards their children after a separation from their mother." Another user, Nwada Okosisi Nasaokwu, suggested the father might hold a misguided belief that the children will return to him later in life, a notion she dismissed. Rachael Chijiago simply lamented, "Hmmmm, some umu Nwoke sef! Let him wake up from his slumber ooo!"
Ada Igbo's story sheds light on the complex challenges faced by women in the diaspora who endure marital breakdowns, balancing cultural expectations with the harsh realities of betrayal and single parenthood in a foreign land.
