International Men's Day Gesture Turns Sour for Nigerian Lady
A young Nigerian woman has taken to social media to express her disappointment after what should have been a kind gesture on International Men's Day turned into a painful experience. The lady, who goes by the username @oma_lik on X (formerly Twitter), shared screenshots of her WhatsApp conversation with a man named Nnamdi that has since gone viral and sparked widespread discussion.
The incident occurred on International Men's Day 2025, when the woman decided to send a special package to Nnamdi through a delivery rider. According to the chat history she posted, she had arranged for the gift to be delivered in the morning but became increasingly frustrated when she received no acknowledgment or appreciation from the recipient throughout the day.
The Disappointing Exchange That Went Viral
In the WhatsApp conversation that has now been seen by thousands, the woman initiated contact with Nnamdi to follow up on her delivery. "Nnamdi. So you couldn't even call me or at least get back to me. I sent my rider a package to deliver to you since morning," she wrote, clearly expressing her frustration at his lack of response.
The man's reply, which has become the center of the controversy, was surprisingly casual given the effort she had made. "Was that from you? Lol. It was a bit extra but I feel you. Thank you," Nnamdi responded, acknowledging the gift while simultaneously dismissing it as excessive.
Sharing the chat online, the woman expressed her outrage at his failure to properly appreciate her gesture. "This man hasn't called me for the gifts I sent to him ontop international men's day. Men will stain your black !!!" she captioned her post, using Nigerian slang to convey her disappointment.
Social Media Erupts with Mixed Reactions
The post immediately attracted significant attention on the X platform, with Nigerians flooding the comments section to share their perspectives on the situation. The reactions revealed a divided audience, with some sympathizing with the woman while others questioned her approach.
One user named Nurse Ellaaaa commented: "Na why I just respect myself be this !! I didn't even text nobody sorry ohh," suggesting she would have handled the situation differently by not sending gifts in the first place.
Another user named Ridbay offered a more analytical perspective: "But to be honest o. Why you con dey do anonymous gift? You wan make Nnamdi turn to Sherlock Holmes on International Men's Day? Baba fit dey battle life, dey rough one or twos. You come add 'guess who sent this' on top. Next time just add small note: 'Na me Chioma send am, no guess wrong o, thank me sharp sharp'. Life no suppose add."
The comment highlighted the importance of clear communication when sending gifts, suggesting that the anonymous nature of the delivery might have contributed to the misunderstanding.
User Heismide humorously noted: "Nnamdi dey fear billing wey go come next from you, na tactics. Nnamdi sef na better coach," implying that the man might have been wary of future expectations following the gift.
Nkemm questioned the woman's expectations: "So should he start twerkking or what?? Na me say make you no put name or romantic note for the package," while Nurse Grace asked: "Ahhhh and this so called nnamdi is supposed to be your boyfriend???"
Perhaps the most relatable response came from user Madonna, who shared a similar personal experience: "I sent a frnd in the US a variety of local snacks in a big parcel (plantain chips, chinchin, kulikuli, etc) cuz he probably missed home. He got it but didn't call/text. I textd & he said he's been lazy 2collect it 4rm d reception for days. His reception is downstairs. Never again."
User Blessing offered compassionate advice: "Jesus! It was a bit gini? I'm sorry nwanne. I think you moved ahead of yourself in the situationship. Ndo. Next time, put one finger, then two, then three, before putting in all your palms," suggesting a more measured approach to relationships.
The viral post has sparked broader conversations about gift-giving etiquette, expectations in modern relationships, and how to properly appreciate kind gestures in Nigerian dating culture. While the woman's disappointment is understandable, the varied reactions show that there are multiple perspectives on where the communication breakdown occurred and how such situations might be avoided in the future.
